“You can’t be half pregnant.” It’s a line my lovely husband uses when people indicate that they are not completely committed to something. He says, you either are or you aren’t. You can’t be half-way there.
It’s the same with TRUST. During the week I was having trouble understanding why I didn’t trust myself enough to create a particular outcome consistently. You know that feeling? You’re not getting the result you want and you just know that it’s about your mindset somehow but you’re not quite sure what.
My amazing and talented new international coach, Narelle Sheehan asked me to undertake a writing exercise to work it out. Part way through writing I thought I had it. I thought that my problem was trust. Or a lack of it. I thought my ad-hoc results were because I didn’t trust myself.
In a flash of insight I realised that a lack of trust was not my problem. Trust is like being pregnant. You can’t be halfway there – you either trust or you don’t. You either trust a person, a situation, a process or an outcome, or you don’t. And if you don’t, there’s another reason for it – a reason that’s stopping you from confidently taking the steps you need to make things happen the way you want them to.
I eventually worked my real problem out and it blew me away. I didn’t have an issue with trust. It’s probably not relevant to you, but my problem was safety and being safe. And those feelings that were the real problem? They weren’t even substantiated. In a heartbeat I went from lack of trust to trust and my results have been astounding.
Do you trust in yourself?
Do you trust in your future?
Do you trust in your beliefs?
Do you trust in the people around you?
If not, what’s the real problem?
It’s not trust. Remember, you can’t be half pregnant.
PS if you’d like to know the writing exercise, message or call me and I’ll share it with you.